September 25, 2013

The Kindness Challenge

I am having one of those days.

Like an I've been there, done that, & I am not doing it again, kind of day.

Feeling annoyed by people's judgments. Others lies. Man's cruelty. People believing lies.
I'm tired of putting up with stuff, being the good guy (I think), while the bad guy carries on with their destructive ways.

It may be learning about another person's suffering that causes me to realize, Life is WAY too short for petty crap. For game playing. For women to be so catty with one another.

It's all about perspective. Being confident. Not worrying what others think, which is hard for me.

I do pause to wonder, why are women so mean to one another sometimes?

We should be sticking together and having one another's backs! Shouldn't we? Women should all band together and unite as one. Celebrating our differences and deciding to learn from another rather than be so critical and judge.

This little mom works.
This little mom stays home.
This little mom makes home cooked dinners.
While this little mom buys McDonald's.
And this little mom compares herself to all the others crying wah wah wah all the way home.

Many of us play comparison games and try to justify our own ways of doing things by putting down another. We feel inferior so we have to boast to make ourselves feel superior. Putting down another will never make us feel superior or happy. It will only make us more miserable.

Many of us rarely stop to look at someone through the eyes of God. Eyes that are SO loving, gracious, merciful...full of compassion and tenderness; Understanding & love.

We absolutely don't treat others with enough of that grace or compassion that we desire.

Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle" -Plato

We all have struggles and things inside of us that cause pain or sorrow throughout our lives.

Spreading lies, stretching truths, trying to make yourself look better than the person next to you will never be the answer. It will never get us anywhere.

We too often think we know what others are thinking or about to do or say, so we try to beat them to the punch and sabotage them before they can sabotage us.

We women act & judge prematurely far too often based on our own assumptions.

Our own insecurities and guilty consciences can be our worst enemy.

Hold back.

Think before speaking and doing.

Relax and just be kind to everyone who crosses paths with you.

Accept and love, while embracing differences. God didn't make me judge, so I doubt he made others one either. :) Agree to disagree. Know that we all offer something. And everyone can learn something from everyone.

We have to stop judging someone else's outside with our own inside. It causes us to be our own worst critic as well as seek to find fault in another.

I would love to see more women vow to love and treat others with more of that grace and compassion that we hope to receive from others.

Shocked with despair
Never thinking it would be her
No time to lose my hair
to have my health would I prefer

Her life is at a stand still
While the world around carries on
This battle she fights is uphill
The nightmare lingers on

The woman who lost her parent
The one who lost her spouse
The woman whom the police have a warrant
The one who will lose her house

The woman scorned
The one whose heart is torn

The woman yearning for a child
The one who lost hers
The woman whose husband just filed
The one whose addiction causes slurs

The woman contemplating suicide
The one carrying a secret 
The woman with such deep pain inside
The one with guilt she can't admit

Hurt, Pain, Malice
None wish to suffer alone
Yet this world is far too callous
In life too much that is unknown

You don't see the tears I cry
I don't know your deepest regret
I wish that as each day goes by
We can vow to love, forgive and simply forget

-Laura Chapman

The Extra Kindness/No Gossip Challenge
Oct 1- 31

This is a NO gossip pledge.

I am vowing and asking others to join me for 31 days of no back stabbing, no malicious behaviors, no catty ways, no lies, no gossip, no looking at the negative or finding fault.

I challenge myself and others to finding the good in others. Killing people with kindness. Not arguing. Extending grace & mercy, compassion & love to all who you come in contact with.

September 19, 2013

How's That Embracing Simplicity Going?

My personal theme this year has been "Embracing Simplicity". 

“Embrace love and compassion with all your spirit. Understand that they never hurt or offend, they just heal and empower.” Steve Maraboli

Embrace the simple things, I have.

I am learning to make the most of every opportunity. 
I am learning the art of being in the moment.
I am learning to Just Be. 
Not only Just Be, but embrace just being Me.
A wife.
A mother.
A daughter.
A sister.
A friend.

These are roles as worthy as any other.

Embrace the moment.
Embrace the day.
Embrace my season in life.
Embrace my strengths and even my weaknesses.
Embrace the good times.
Embrace the big or the small.

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.” -Charles Swindoll

I am learning to embrace every season for it shapes, molds, contains blessings, teaching moments & prepares us for the next.

“You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present.” -Jan Glidewell

With that said, as we are heading into fall...
Instead of looking at the long winter which follows I am enjoying all that Fall brings right here & right now.


Time spent with my girls cooking and baking!

APPLES!!!! Apple pie, apple muffins, applesauce, apple butter, apple crisp.

Best little helpers on earth!

Zucchini Muffins

Just Be. Take time for Oneself!

Fall Sports!!!

Chilly nights which makes for fabulous snuggle weather.
Warm meals.
Chili, stew, soups, dinners that make you go Mmm.
Pumpkin spice.
Apples & Cinnamon.

I'm trying to take time to appreciate every little thing.

There is a time for everything,
    and a season for every activity under the heavens:
    a time to be born and a time to die,
    a time to plant and a time to uproot,
    a time to kill and a time to heal,
    a time to tear down and a time to build,
    a time to weep and a time to laugh,
    a time to mourn and a time to dance,
    a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
    a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
    a time to search and a time to give up,
    a time to keep and a time to throw away,
    a time to tear and a time to mend,
    a time to be silent and a time to speak,
    a time to love and a time to hate,
    a time for war and a time for peace.

~Ecclesiastes 3

P.S. And I love tv and watching my shows at the end of the day...Thank you God for Fall & my television line up beginning soon!

September 18, 2013

Gentle Reminders in the Midst of My Insecurities

God's timing can be so sweet. And so precious. And so out of the blue sometimes.

I have to share a very sweet little thing that happened to me today that I completely do not find at all coincidental.

A little background of the past couple of weeks...I have been feeling just a little discouraged. One of my biggest struggles in life is when someone doesn't like me. I don't know why I let it get to me so much. I really do like people and get along with most people. I love making new friends. I feel like I am a nice person with a good heart and pretty pure intentions. I am an open book, I have never claimed to be perfect and I don't think I act like my poop doesn't stink.

I could have a room full of 200 people. 199 friends and people who like me and who I get along with. But I will dwell and ponder and worry about that 1. That one little guy or gal can ruin the whole thing. WHY DO I LET THAT BOTHER ME??? Any other full grown adults out there who fret about the same stuff?

Anyone else allow someone to intimidate you?

It's my own insecurity.

With fostering little ones I find myself among new people and learning to fit in with new moms.  I have had a good thing going and a good comradery with my school age children/parents of, etc. I am trying to get a good thing going with parents of toddlers now too, as I go back in time a bit with the baby stage. It's been 5 years since I have had a 1 yr old. While that time flies, it's amazing how much you can forget and how EASY life can be once your kids are the "I can wipe my own butt" age.

Without going into detail as far as who, what, when, or where regarding this one person out of 1 billion who is causing me to feel all sorts of insecurities...Just know that they exist. It's my issue and I need to buck up and just have confidence and say "WHO CARES!"...

But it's hard...

So in the meantime, today happened.

My Jesus blessed me today.

I had story time at the library with my little ones. And lo and behold an angel of a mother came to sit by me. She sought little ole me out. And she said...and I quote...and I promise I am not one for vain flattery or one to pat myself on the back. But this is too good to not share. "You looked pretty lovable so I decided to come and sit by you"

And I come to find out she has OLDER kids too!!! And a toddler.

Jesus gave me a new friend today.

I love making new friends.

I love God's gentle reminders.